I Need A Minute
Life is crazy. No way around it. Everyone carries their own bag of bricks. It’s this mental load that weighs us down- our worries, our insecurities, our frustrations. And if they aren’t properly dealt with, they become overwhelming, hello breakdowns.
Getting real with you guys, I value myself based off of how well my family is thriving. I recognize it’s unfair (for everyone) and something I am working on. I can carry a decent amount of weight but when somebody I love is struggling I take it as a reflection of how I’m doing. Example: If Finn is having a hard week, I put all my parenting decisions under a microscope and blame myself. Even though I know he’s just going through some mad shit. With this toddler phase being the highest of highs and the lowest of lows it’s really thrown my emotions for a loop.
Everyone has told me about this magical thing called “me time” and it may be an easy thing for some to take, it’s not for me. If my family is together I have the hardest time leaving. I became a stay at home mom because I wanted to soak up every second! But that is just unrealistic. I think the idea of “me time” has become this extravagant thing. Like you need to prepare a bath with rose peddles, candles, all the oil, and a lovely book. It almost feels overwhelming! I know it looks different for everyone and if you love that bath, I envy you, but on the hardest days when I have been pulled on, hit, licked, climbed, and carried Finn around all day, I just want a minute.
A minute to myself where I’m not being touched, where I can sit in silence and just regroup. Maybe I’ll have a cup of coffee (and actually finish it), or maybe I’ll meditate, but I’ll do it with only my own thoughts.
I would be lying if I said I didn’t appreciate, love, or need a day to myself to complete a kick ass hike or solo trip to the ice cream parlor, but I function much better if I have a little bit of “me time” multiple times a week instead of just one big one a month.
If you’re in need of some simple at home “me time” ideas try these ones out:
Turn your electronics off & write in a gratitude journal! It’s easier to cope with a stressful day when your mind is already focused on the things your grateful for.
Get active. This doesn’t have to be some intense hard sweaty workout. You could do yoga, stretch, take a short walk outside, something to get your blood flowing.
Close your eyes and breathe. Focus on carrying your breath everywhere from your head to your toes. It’s a form of meditation and if you need some help check out the different breathing apps Calm, Headspace, and The Mindfulness App
Work on a passion project. I love photography and writing, hence the blog, but this could be anything that brings you joy- knitting, art, cooking!
This post is simply to say: I know it’s been a while, I’ve been overwhelmed and uninspired. I just needed a minute. But I’m back, feeling the inspiration flowing, and stoked to keep you posted on all our summertime plans!
Live Inspired, & Happy Summer Solstice,